The Troubble with Chainsaw man
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The Troubble with Chainsaw man
I have noticed I am being target of Verbal abuse from a few people here.
I am here trying to make peace of this. I admit I have my wrongs, I have slung my share of mud, and said thing maybe I shouldent, nobody is perfect, and you would be lying if you told me you are such standard of Perfect. Im here to end conflict. First off, what problem dose everyone habve with me if they have a problem? if you are uncomfortable with talking in the Forums about it, then by all means PM me and please do not be an ass hole. Ill give you five days to speak your mind, or forever hold your peace with me. let Us begin
I am here trying to make peace of this. I admit I have my wrongs, I have slung my share of mud, and said thing maybe I shouldent, nobody is perfect, and you would be lying if you told me you are such standard of Perfect. Im here to end conflict. First off, what problem dose everyone habve with me if they have a problem? if you are uncomfortable with talking in the Forums about it, then by all means PM me and please do not be an ass hole. Ill give you five days to speak your mind, or forever hold your peace with me. let Us begin
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C, I think you really need to take a moment and chill out. R_T has a problem with you, but you aren't helping things by rising to it because its the way you argue and some of the things you argue about that get him riled.
If you have to I'd suggest just ignoring his posts. Its not a great way of dealing with things and you'd be missing out when he does make a good point or post, but you've got to bear in mind this is the internet. Its full of people who can pour hatred on you with impunity and you have to learn that they don't know you - so it can't be personal.
All they can react to and all they can hate are the things you choose to say. So choose those things more wisely and you won't go far wrong.
If you have to I'd suggest just ignoring his posts. Its not a great way of dealing with things and you'd be missing out when he does make a good point or post, but you've got to bear in mind this is the internet. Its full of people who can pour hatred on you with impunity and you have to learn that they don't know you - so it can't be personal.
All they can react to and all they can hate are the things you choose to say. So choose those things more wisely and you won't go far wrong.
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Eh, you've grown up significantly in the few weeks since you returned.
Probably my biggest problem would be stuff like this:
I don't have that much of a problem with you in particular, C, it's more the way you deal with people like R_T. Sure, he comes across as a supremely arrogant asshole, but it's about time you realised that we all do at one point or another - even though we often don't mean to.
For example, if you had explained in the first place why you dislike homosexuality, then people would not have bristled quite so much. Openly insulting homsexuals - even if it's not meant that way - is like waving a red flag in front of a bull, and everyone on the forum is going to ride your ass - not in the good way, either.
Flaming is never the answer, by the way. The easiest way to lose a flame war is to start a flame war, because it's really just you against the troll, and the troll has the upper hand because you're angry. And then it polarises the forum, and all of a sudden, while the mods are trying to clean up the shit left behind, the spambots get in, the forum gets clogged, and then shut down.
Everyone loses.
Probably my biggest problem would be stuff like this:
Seriously, not cool. If you're going to let people have open slather on your faults, there shouldn't be a deadline.Ill give you five days to speak your mind, or forever hold your peace with me.
I don't have that much of a problem with you in particular, C, it's more the way you deal with people like R_T. Sure, he comes across as a supremely arrogant asshole, but it's about time you realised that we all do at one point or another - even though we often don't mean to.
For example, if you had explained in the first place why you dislike homosexuality, then people would not have bristled quite so much. Openly insulting homsexuals - even if it's not meant that way - is like waving a red flag in front of a bull, and everyone on the forum is going to ride your ass - not in the good way, either.
Flaming is never the answer, by the way. The easiest way to lose a flame war is to start a flame war, because it's really just you against the troll, and the troll has the upper hand because you're angry. And then it polarises the forum, and all of a sudden, while the mods are trying to clean up the shit left behind, the spambots get in, the forum gets clogged, and then shut down.
Everyone loses.
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Sometimes your spellingreally bugs me...
But that's not so much a problem as me being a perfectionist.
I think you're getting better at least, and I like second chances, but somimes I get a slight "holier than thou" vibe.
I don't mean the religious way.
But, it's getting less over time.
(By perfectionist I mean I don't strive for myself to be perfect but alot of stuff around me has to be perfect unless it takes alot of work to be perfect. Even something as small as the angle my knife and fork is at compared to the grid on my table and my plate.)
But that's not so much a problem as me being a perfectionist.
I think you're getting better at least, and I like second chances, but somimes I get a slight "holier than thou" vibe.
I don't mean the religious way.
But, it's getting less over time.
(By perfectionist I mean I don't strive for myself to be perfect but alot of stuff around me has to be perfect unless it takes alot of work to be perfect. Even something as small as the angle my knife and fork is at compared to the grid on my table and my plate.)